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| Limabird cardigan by Tabitha (size small): Anthropologie, holiday 2012 Eyelet skirt (size 6): J.Crew, summer 2012 Heels: Tahari |
What I don't adore? The fact that I ripped a big ol' hole on the side of this skirt on the rough, 100 year old door jamb of my front door. Noooooo! This is only the 3rd time I have worn this skirt! Luckily my mom has a good friend who can work miracles with tailoring so hopefully it's not a goner. It's totally my luck of late that I would do something so clumsy though!
I like to keep things light and fun on this blog usually. It is a personal style blog, after all. Nothing too serious, you know? But lately my life has gotten a little stressful. My middle son, age 6, was recently diagnosed with dyslexia and ADHD. We have to make some pretty important decisions about his future and school over the next few weeks, and it's completely overwhelming to me, and a little sad. I don't want him to struggle his whole life, and I want to do what is best for him. Sometimes it sucks to have to be the responsible grown-up and make such life-altering decisions! So if I've been quiet lately...that's why. Just a lot on my mind.
Thanks for reading!
Jeannie - Trust your instincts. You're great parents and you'll get through this. God Bless. KC
ReplyDeleteThank you. I don't always feel like a great parent! Thanks.
DeleteSorry to hear of your struggles. It's so hard to know what to do for your kids' best interests, but I'm sure you will work it out for the best. Love your sweater and skirt combo today...very springy.:)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the kind words!
DeleteHang in there Jeannie. You are his mom and you will figure it out. All we can do is love our kids and try to steer them in the right direction. He will appreciate your love and support in the long run. Btw, you look great, as always!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! He is a very good boy!
DeleteHey, girl, first off, I want to tell you that I was thinking what top to wear with my striped green/blue/yellow skirt this morning and then I saw this post and the pinned dropped! I have that cardigan and have worn it once already and it was so comfy that I will gladly wear it again today. I wasn't even thinking cardigan but it is utterly perfect.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, I feel your pain regarding your son. It is so so so hard to try and figure out what is best for your kids that you can spend hours wrangling over each decision. Even when you believe you have made the best decision it can turn your head at night, making for lots of sleeplessness. I know that you know this, but I guess I am trying to let you know that you are not alone and a whole lot of us are pulling for you. I'll be thinking of you over the next few weeks.
BTW, my brother had a learning disorder that forced him to attend the local public school (much better resources for special ed than the catholic school). It was very sad to have him at another school and definitely not ideal, but it *was* the best decision for our family. Thankfully kids are super resilient, and whatever is best for them will work for them!
Thank you sooo much for sharing your brother's story. That is essentially the decision we face: keep him in our beloved Catholic school, or pull him out and send him to a special school? So hard to decide. Thanks for visiting!
DeleteJeannie--that cardigan is SO pretty and so is the skirt, I hope it is fixable! I managed to splatter olive oil all over the silk top I wore yesterday so I hear you on the klutziness!
ReplyDeleteRE: your little guy--take a deep breath and let your gut be your guide. You are a great mom (I can tell how much you love those little dudes!) and your instincts in this situation are probably right. You'll know what is best. And if it isn't working, you can always change it. I totally agree with Dina--this won't stop you from worrying about it (worrying is the true badge of motherhood, I think) but knowing that YOU are the expert on your own kid may help.
Thanks so much. The worrying...aye yi yi! It ages us, doesn't it? Another badge of motherhood...accelerated aging! :)
DeleteI've been following your blog for the past few months and I've really enjoyed it! It sounds like you are being very thoughtful about your son and he will certainly benefit from that! My husband is dyslexic and he's about to finish his PhD in engineering. Reading and writing are still not his forte, but he's developed skills to succeed.
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Merri
Thanks so much for sharing your story. Awesome re: your husband! That gives me so much hope!
DeleteI just wanted to give you some encouragement about your son. My daughter was also diagnosed with ADHD when she was 6 and is now 17 and a junior in high school. It has definitely been a journey with some ups and downs but she is doing great and getting ready to apply for college! Go with your gut and don't be afraid to speak up....you are now going to have to be his advocate as well as his mom! Hang in there!! Oh and love the outfit BTW!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your encouragment. I am glad your daughter is doing well! We are just starting our journey and I love to hear how others have helped their children!
DeleteYour post inspired me to comment, so with that, I'd like to (humbly) give you a teacher's perspective.
ReplyDeleteWhile I can't pretend to know what you are going through as a parent, and I don't pretend to know what is best for YOUR child..... I do know that in my school, it is always best for the teachers and the students when all parties are in constant communication in regards to students with this diagnosis. The toughest part for teachers is when parents do not wish to even have such a conversation.
Additionally, I'm sure whatever life-altering decisions you are making are the 'right' ones. Best wishes to you and your family.
TC, it made me feel so good when, during a conference iwth my son's teacher, tutor, speech therapist and principal, they told me I have done all I could and thanked me for being so proactive and gracious. I am so thankful to all of them! He would not have made it through kindergarten without his amazing teacher's extra efforts!
DeleteI'm certainly no expert, but I've heard anecdotally that sometimes a discipline, like a martial art, is a good way to channel a young boy's energy and focus, and may help deal with the effects of such issues your child is facing. I'm all for trying all-natural options first, and I think your son will enjoy learning something new.
ReplyDeleteThat is a great suggestion! I can see my little guy liking karate! Thanks for visiting! I agree, I am keeping all treatment options open!
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ReplyDeleteJeannie, I hope your faith gives you & your husband strength as you navigate the choices ahead. I agree w/everyone that you will figure it out if you trust your instincts. It's my belief that when we do things out of fear, it's not usually the best decision. Make decisions from the strongest feelings of good, as often as you can. Everything will work out! (hugs)
ReplyDeleteI've been reading and following your blog for a good while. LOVE that you love color!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about your son's diagnosis. However, it's wonderful that he was diagnosed at a young age instead of struggling with this and ruining his self-esteem.
I have ADHD and was not diagnosed until I was an adult but the signs were there when I was a child. Most people with ADHD have above average intelligence and just think differently than other people. He will show you things in so many different ways and you will learn so much from him. This is just a bump in the road for you guys and I know you will get through it.
May I suggest that you check out these 2 sites:
http://www.chadd.org/ (great for parents and they should have a local chapter for you to talk with other parents)
http://www.additudemag.com/ Great site with lots of ideas, tips, tricks and advice.